In Pursuit Of Happiness…So True!

I have been following the “Becoming Minimalist” blog for a while now and get great tips, ideas and inspiration as to how I would like my life to be.

You can find this wonderful blog by following this link: https://plus.google.com/113736652921171579041#113736652921171579041/posts

Today I read this  post on Becoming Minimalist called “Not What We Possess, But What We Pursue”.

http://www.becomingminimalist.com/now-what-we-possess-but-what-we-pursue/

This post rings so much truth to me personally and to many people I associate with and know. How many times have you brought home goods/possesions from the shops, thinking it’ll make you feel better? Only to be left feeling empty and back at square one! Yes, we psyche ourselves up to try and justify our purchase at the time…”Oh, but this will make me feel so much better…And the best one “I deserve it!”Knowing fully well that you do not NEED it! Anyone agree with me?

We need to look within and find the ‘missing link’. Why do we need to fill our voids with possesions? We cannot take them with us when we pass. Society and the media fills our heads with hog wash that our lives will be better, we will be prettier, sexier, healthier etc, etc.

If we just buy that beautiful dress that the model has on cause she looks so sexy in it, if we purchase this magic potion, it will make you reach your weight loss goal faster and be able to fit into that sexy dress within no time. Yeah right! Only to put it all back on again! And then the dress does not fit  and we have wasted our time and money! How having a bigger house, a flashier, bigger car is all going to make our lives that much easier! How happy we will be and how happy our kids will be! NOT! How does all these possesions make up for the quality time we should rather be spending with our children, for the true happiness we all deserve? The latest toy only entertains them for a short time and then guess what…They want YOUR attention, not the possesions you bought them! Having a bigger, cluttered with more and more stuff house means more cleaning, dusting, maintenance etc! Ain’t nobody got time for that! Time is precious as it is! Now by all means, do not think I don’t like nice things, who doesn’t. I am just trying to make conscious decisions about what I posses and even who I let into my life, who I share it with.

Hey, if you work hard, can afford that big house and have time to clean it and maintain it (or if you can afford someone else to do all the above) then go right ahead! You deserve it, right! But ask yourself these questions: “Do I need it? Is this going to make me and my family happy? Is this just to fill ‘The gap’/the void in my life?” If the answer is NO, then please reasses your values, needs/wants, time, desires, dreams and family and do what is going to make YOU/ YOU’LL  really and truly happy. Not just for ‘now’ happiness but everlasting, eternal happiness.

My example is: I am currently a stay at home Mum and as you know most stay at home Mum’s cannot afford all the luxuries they would like to posses, but you know what. I have never in all my time of being a stay at home Mum felt unhappy or like I am missing out on something or wished I could have more because I am contempt with what I have. We are not rich in monies and possesions but we are rich in happiness!

We never go without and neither does Lil B!  But wait till he grows up they say, and he wants bigger and better, more expensive things. Things that other kids have. You know what I say to that: It’s what you instill in your child from a young age and what you portray to your child is what they think is the right thing to do and be. Not to say that he will not get that toy or whatever new technology will be available at that time but he will be taught to appreciatre the little things in life, to work hard for what he wants to posses and that having possesions is in no way the right way to fulfill his happiness.

When I was earning money for some reason I wanted to posses more. I was always trapsing the internet or shops to see what my next purchase fix could be…Because I was unhappy and unfilled in my job and where my life was at. Now, I couldn’t be happier, relaxed, on the path to pursuing my dreams (slowly but surely). Not to say I am not ever going to work but I am not going to rush into another job that I will not be fulfilled in. Life is too short for that!

In conclusion: Do what makes YOU happy, pursue your happiness, dreams and desires and the rest will all fall into place.

Have a happy, fulfilling, fun-loving day all.

Lameese X

Weekend Shinanigans!

Last weekend we had a busy one, from Friday pizza dinner to partying it up on Saturday with good mates and then attending a friends daughters birthday on the Sunday…Shoo! I feel old! LOL! To kick off our wonderful (busy) weekend we made homemad pizzas, which we love doing on a Friday, if we are not beat from the weeks activities. therwise boring old yucky takeout it is! I was inspired to make this spicy meat ball pizza by @homemadewithmess . She posted a spicy meatballl pizza recipe on her blog http://homemadewithmess.wordpress.com and I just had to try it out myself. Below is my version plus Lil B’s Dad wanted a tandoori pizza which I made but did not have time to take a pic! We invited my parents over for dinner and if I should say so myself it turned out delish! They were a hit to our taste buds and the ‘parentals’thought so as well 😀

Of course I am not that good and bought ready made pizza bases (which Mumma has time to be making their own? Suree not this one!). Recipe is below. Hope you enjoy!

Ingredients:

  • Pizza Bases
  • Pizza Sauce
  • Lean Beef Mince
  • White Onion
  • Red Onion
  • Mushrooms
  • Pepper of your choice
  • Jalapenos (if you so choose to add extra spice)
  • BBQ Sauce
  • Coriander (dhania as some know it)
  • Cumin spice
  • Oil

Method:

Make meatballs ahead of time by chopping white onion, coriander and adding to mince with cumin spice (and any other spices you’d like, maybe throw in a chilli or two). Combine well and set in the fridge for about 20-30 mins.

In the meantime chop all your pizza toppings (you can add as much or as little as you like, customized to your taste buds). I sliced a red onion, red pepper, had jalapenos out the jar and already chopped up mushrooms (the busy Mom way:)

Take out mince mixture and round into your hands forming little balls of meat. Fry over medium heat until browned on the outside and set aside.

Cover your pizza base in the pizza sauce and a bit of BBQ. Add the toppings (onion, mushrooms, capsicum, meatballs, jalapenos etc)

Place some more BBQ sauce on top and add some pizza topping spice. I use the one from Masterfoods (AU).

Place in the oven for 15-20 mins at 180-200 degrees celsius, depending on your oven. And serve hot with a side green salad.

I promise you once you start making your own pizzas you will NEVER buy a conventional pizza again! Homemade is just too tasty (and at least you know what is in it:)

Please let me know if you try out this pizza by commenting below or post your pic 🙂 Happy eating all!

Inspired by @homemadewithmess spicy meatball pizza

Friday= homemade pizzas 🙂

Saturday evening it was off to a friends Birthday party at their place. Lil B spent the night at his grandparents, which meant a night out with no baby talk, no screaming or saying don’t touch a thousand times. Just people our size that we could have a ‘real’ adult conversation with. Now do not get me wrong. I love chatting to my Lil B (well more babbling than anything). It makes my heart sing when I hear him saying words (the baby version words that is…Bubba, berd A.K.A Bird, soos A.K.A shoes…). I felt less guilty once I consoled myself that all of our days, weekends, months, years we’ll spend with Lil B; so when we do get to have some “adult time” with our friends we make the most of it. As now a days it is very rare. Nonetheless I think it’s a good social life balance 🙂

We had a great time at Wes’ Birthday (thanks Lu-Jerne & Wes) and made it home by 3am! It should have been earlier because Lil B’s Dad was falling asleep in the chair while people were still partying (Taxi!) and by people I mean ME! I have to admit I was struggling a bit but thought no! I am NOT going home early because these occasions don’t come around often (baby free that is). I remember the good Ol’ days when we would be driving home as the sun is rising! Hell no, not these days. A sign we are maturing (as I like to say, not getting old! LOL!). We had a little sleep in and then it was back to reality by 10am! As we had a Birthday party to attend to Sunday at 11am!!

Wesley's Birthday

Wesley’s Birthday

Ready to paaarrrttyy!

Ready to paaarrrttyy!

My big boy

My lil man trying on Dad’s shoes for size 🙂

Lil B is not old enough to appreciate a ‘big kids’ party but he had a really good time. All while Mum and Dad are trying to keep their eyes open with match sticks! Just watching him interact at the little kids play ground was enough to keep me awake and realize just how fast he is growing! To treasure every moment, no matter how I am feeling, and take as many pics as I can. Because one moment their innocent little beings who are entertaining you and teaching you, and making you lose your hair all while being able to love them unconditionally and the next they are all grown up ready to move out of home, have kids of their own and you look back and think where did the time go!? I don’t want to be that person, someone who looks back and cannot remember where the time went or the events of ones life. Thank goodness for iPhones with awesome cameras and Instagram, and Smilebox…What did we do without you’ll?? Oh yes! We had regular cameras and had to print out the photos. Bleh! I do not have time to put photos in photo albums and truth be told I do not look at the photo albums that often to be printing the 1000’s of photos we have. Now all our photo’s is stored on our computer (where I honestly spend a lot of my time) and if we need to print them we do so. Ain’t technology amazing! (Note to self: We need to get an external hard drive, in case of fire, floods etc!)

After the party we got home, relaxed (well Lil B and his Dad did. Mum had to cook :/). When I did get to relax I made a cuppa and was thinking what great memories we have created this past weekend with our friends and family, and how many more great memories to come :). We had an eventful and fun weekend. We have great memories post Lil B but since Lil B has arrived all these moments just seem that more imprinted in our brain…Forever! Hope you all had a good weekend!

Thanks again to The Bouveries and Rouessart’s, friends and family for making our weekend that more memorable 🙂 X

Tayla's 8th Birthday

Tayla’s 8th Birthday

Have an AUsome week!

Lameese X

Emotional health

This post is dedicated tou Aunt Eleanor. she is an inspiring, loving & knowledgeable woman. Nothing beats the love & support of family!

Insight on being emotionally happy & healthy:

We are emotional beings and paying attention to our emotions is something we should do regularly, otherwise, these emotions accumulate and may cause great damage in our bodies and our minds. Most of us hold back our emotions for very long periods of time and one day those emotions which have been bottled up explode uncontrollably and unexpectedly.. at the grocery store, in your car listening to the radio, in the middle of the night, anywhere and anytime. Blocked emotions end up festering and having much more impact than they should when released. This overwhelming outburst can be surprising, overpowering and somewhat frightening; the flow of feelings unleashed has accumulated for a long period of time which can make the intensity of the release disproportionate to the underlying situation. Should you have a similar experience do not fight it, instead allow the feelings to flow freely immediately or as soon as you can find a secure place where you can let yourself go privately and comfortably. Give your emotional system the love, time and attention it needs and deserves. In order to keep your physical and emotional lives healthy and in balance make time in your busy life to process your emotions regularly through meditation, writing or talking to a trusted friend and always remember that emotions are created by thoughts, keep your thoughts happy and positive and you will have healthy and peaceful emotions.

Fad diets vs healthy eating

Hello lovelies… I haven’t posted for a while. I’ve been on the “trying to be healthy” bandwagon all while looking after Lil B & trying my best to entertain him. His at that stage where everything intrigues him & so curious… But that’s for another post 🙂

This healthy lifestyle is no easy task, especially when there’s so much temptation around you! But that’s just it. Temptation or not. I would never deprive myself of luxuries as life is too short for that crap! My motto to healthy eating is: “Be Calm & Have Everything In Moderation”

I find if I follow this ‘rule’ my tummy is satisfied as well as my sanity. I try, where possible, to choose the healthiest option but we don’t live in a perfect world.

I’d much rather eat everything (in moderation, that is) than be on a fad diet that everyone raves about for the first few months of their existence. Don’t get me wrong, some people are successful on these fad diets but it NEVER lasts! Because again each of our lifestyles are different & we all like different things.

Conclusion: Find what works for you, fit it into your lifestyle. Be fit,energetic & healthy!! 🙂

What lifestyle do you follow to keep healthy? I’d love to hear your comments below.

Have a fit-abulous day all!l

Lameese X

My basics capsule wardrobe

As I get older I realize what my style is but I always like to go back to my basics. Here is a sneak peak into my wardrobe basics. Ok, I don’t own all the items cause I do not have an overflowing bank account or no millionaire but I do have similar pieces.
What are your wardrobe basics? Please do share.

Have a beautiful day! Just as beautiful as you are!

Lameese X

My basics capsule wardrobe

Short dress
rubynz.com

Dress
review-australia.com

Joie shirt
joie.com

Bebe
bebe.com

Witchery slim fit shirt
$41 – witchery.com.au

Citizens of Humanity patching jeans
$355 – veryeickhoff.com

Wide leg pants
spiegel.com

Brunello cucinelli
$655 – veryeickhoff.com

Givenchy
$930 – harveynichols.com

Mai Piu Senza heeled boots
$170 – zalando.co.uk

Urban decay eye shadow
$31 – debenhams.com