I have been following the “Becoming Minimalist” blog for a while now and get great tips, ideas and inspiration as to how I would like my life to be.
You can find this wonderful blog by following this link: https://plus.google.com/113736652921171579041#113736652921171579041/posts
Today I read this post on Becoming Minimalist called “Not What We Possess, But What We Pursue”.
This post rings so much truth to me personally and to many people I associate with and know. How many times have you brought home goods/possesions from the shops, thinking it’ll make you feel better? Only to be left feeling empty and back at square one! Yes, we psyche ourselves up to try and justify our purchase at the time…”Oh, but this will make me feel so much better…And the best one “I deserve it!”Knowing fully well that you do not NEED it! Anyone agree with me?
We need to look within and find the ‘missing link’. Why do we need to fill our voids with possesions? We cannot take them with us when we pass. Society and the media fills our heads with hog wash that our lives will be better, we will be prettier, sexier, healthier etc, etc.
If we just buy that beautiful dress that the model has on cause she looks so sexy in it, if we purchase this magic potion, it will make you reach your weight loss goal faster and be able to fit into that sexy dress within no time. Yeah right! Only to put it all back on again! And then the dress does not fit and we have wasted our time and money! How having a bigger house, a flashier, bigger car is all going to make our lives that much easier! How happy we will be and how happy our kids will be! NOT! How does all these possesions make up for the quality time we should rather be spending with our children, for the true happiness we all deserve? The latest toy only entertains them for a short time and then guess what…They want YOUR attention, not the possesions you bought them! Having a bigger, cluttered with more and more stuff house means more cleaning, dusting, maintenance etc! Ain’t nobody got time for that! Time is precious as it is! Now by all means, do not think I don’t like nice things, who doesn’t. I am just trying to make conscious decisions about what I posses and even who I let into my life, who I share it with.
Hey, if you work hard, can afford that big house and have time to clean it and maintain it (or if you can afford someone else to do all the above) then go right ahead! You deserve it, right! But ask yourself these questions: “Do I need it? Is this going to make me and my family happy? Is this just to fill ‘The gap’/the void in my life?” If the answer is NO, then please reasses your values, needs/wants, time, desires, dreams and family and do what is going to make YOU/ YOU’LL really and truly happy. Not just for ‘now’ happiness but everlasting, eternal happiness.
My example is: I am currently a stay at home Mum and as you know most stay at home Mum’s cannot afford all the luxuries they would like to posses, but you know what. I have never in all my time of being a stay at home Mum felt unhappy or like I am missing out on something or wished I could have more because I am contempt with what I have. We are not rich in monies and possesions but we are rich in happiness!
We never go without and neither does Lil B! But wait till he grows up they say, and he wants bigger and better, more expensive things. Things that other kids have. You know what I say to that: It’s what you instill in your child from a young age and what you portray to your child is what they think is the right thing to do and be. Not to say that he will not get that toy or whatever new technology will be available at that time but he will be taught to appreciatre the little things in life, to work hard for what he wants to posses and that having possesions is in no way the right way to fulfill his happiness.
When I was earning money for some reason I wanted to posses more. I was always trapsing the internet or shops to see what my next purchase fix could be…Because I was unhappy and unfilled in my job and where my life was at. Now, I couldn’t be happier, relaxed, on the path to pursuing my dreams (slowly but surely). Not to say I am not ever going to work but I am not going to rush into another job that I will not be fulfilled in. Life is too short for that!
In conclusion: Do what makes YOU happy, pursue your happiness, dreams and desires and the rest will all fall into place.
Have a happy, fulfilling, fun-loving day all.